Well, apology accepted, thanks for explaining. Like I said, it happens. (The grudge thing.) Like, the Zootopia reviews are my villain origin story, because it's exactly what everybody tells me to do (share the good things), and I got a lot of shit for it, and by the end I was more than a little paranoid, and honestly the trailer thing was a little weird, maybe we both should have gone through another draft on that one (but we'll talk about the editing stuff below). But whatever.
Mostly, when I'm saying the "community", I'm talking about and/or assuming the person I'm replying to is talking about the furry fandom at large. But that's not to say I don't have mixed feelings about this place; sometimes I just have to admit to myself I'm only here because it's a cheap lay with almost nonexistent standards of acceptance, so I don't have to worry about rejection. So that's my explanation for why I stick around a place I profess to hate sometimes.
But when you dig into people - you stop being a comedian, and I think you're an asshole.
You're mostly right here, and don't worry about me making the "oh, it's just a joke" defense, because, no, I am being an asshole, and I'll even admit my intention is often just straight up emotional maiming. My only defense is to say I usually reserve the really bad stuff for those who I feel deserve it, and it's kind of hard to prove there are times I hold fire. Can't really brag about all the mean things I didn't say, after all.
And going back to the jokes (and this has relevance to Sonious's comment from earlier), well, I want to be clear, they are meant to hurt and be funny at the same time. They're a weapon in my arsenal, because sometimes ridiculing hurts. But I also am joking a lot other times too, and, yeah, that can probably get confusing, especially if I cross lines I didn't mean to. Like, yeah, this is the Ursa Majors thread, and I think we're all still a little sensitive and paranoid about that, but, just as example, while there were times when I was just being an asshole to Garrison, because I think she deserved it, the comment that apparently did the most damage was me turning her into a verb in an unrelated aside that was not. Like, if you just need to check sometimes, I guess that's fair.
Also, actually, going back to Sonious, my "you sound like a chain restaurant manager" actually, in my own head, seems really way more mean than it did a couple hours ago. Like, honestly, top ten meanest things I've said, actually. Like, accidental crossing of the line, sorry about that.
I think honestly, though, like, just tell your friends "don't read the comments". Isn't that the first rule of the Internet, or something? That's literally what I told people at Anthrocon; "Read the articles, skip the comments." I save the good stuff for the articles. I don't know if even when we're being nice we're all that interesting in the comments. Also, we do kind of treat these open comment sections like a private forum sometimes. That might be something we all should work on.
Also, no real beef on the editing; of course nobody likes being edited, it's not the fun part of the job. I don't think you step on my jokes maliciously or even on purpose; I think you occasionally (I exaggerated) step on my jokes because you did't get them. Which, in that case, like, were they that good to begin with? The only one I really regret or even actually remember is the Captain America cussing joke in a top ten list that was the culmination of three years worth of jokes, and you did ask me about it and I couldn't explain it so I guess that was just kind of for me, but the top tens are already kind of for me and also three years in the gestating but oh, well.
But actually speaking of openings, wow, I don't think you liked my The Bad Guys review. To be clear, that's fine, and I'm actually kind of cracking up a bit at it. I think the rambling beginning there was rambling, if I'm remembering right, but that was a visual thing, not a writing thing. Because I use movie posters, and one image has to be whatever width for Facebook or whatever, they take up a lot of space, and if I don't have enough prose to wrap around it, it sticks out awkwardly on the front page. I've definitely gotten better at disguising it (re-read some of my older reviews and you'll see it's much more obvious), but if you're editing something and the opening is like that, that's probably why (I think there was also a MLP review like that). Which is not to say don't try to make it better, but in future it's probably better to just ask me to rewrite the opening.
The point is, your editing is fine, I was sniping at you. I mean, my ego does like it when Sonious edits me ... because he just sends on through without a single change, but then I don't really learn much (also, he could at least proofread me, if he's reading, I mean, I write run on sentences frequently, always confuse my homophones, and, heck, just make typographical errors).
Well, apology accepted, thanks for explaining. Like I said, it happens. (The grudge thing.) Like, the Zootopia reviews are my villain origin story, because it's exactly what everybody tells me to do (share the good things), and I got a lot of shit for it, and by the end I was more than a little paranoid, and honestly the trailer thing was a little weird, maybe we both should have gone through another draft on that one (but we'll talk about the editing stuff below). But whatever.
Mostly, when I'm saying the "community", I'm talking about and/or assuming the person I'm replying to is talking about the furry fandom at large. But that's not to say I don't have mixed feelings about this place; sometimes I just have to admit to myself I'm only here because it's a cheap lay with almost nonexistent standards of acceptance, so I don't have to worry about rejection. So that's my explanation for why I stick around a place I profess to hate sometimes.
You're mostly right here, and don't worry about me making the "oh, it's just a joke" defense, because, no, I am being an asshole, and I'll even admit my intention is often just straight up emotional maiming. My only defense is to say I usually reserve the really bad stuff for those who I feel deserve it, and it's kind of hard to prove there are times I hold fire. Can't really brag about all the mean things I didn't say, after all.
And going back to the jokes (and this has relevance to Sonious's comment from earlier), well, I want to be clear, they are meant to hurt and be funny at the same time. They're a weapon in my arsenal, because sometimes ridiculing hurts. But I also am joking a lot other times too, and, yeah, that can probably get confusing, especially if I cross lines I didn't mean to. Like, yeah, this is the Ursa Majors thread, and I think we're all still a little sensitive and paranoid about that, but, just as example, while there were times when I was just being an asshole to Garrison, because I think she deserved it, the comment that apparently did the most damage was me turning her into a verb in an unrelated aside that was not. Like, if you just need to check sometimes, I guess that's fair.
Also, actually, going back to Sonious, my "you sound like a chain restaurant manager" actually, in my own head, seems really way more mean than it did a couple hours ago. Like, honestly, top ten meanest things I've said, actually. Like, accidental crossing of the line, sorry about that.
I think honestly, though, like, just tell your friends "don't read the comments". Isn't that the first rule of the Internet, or something? That's literally what I told people at Anthrocon; "Read the articles, skip the comments." I save the good stuff for the articles. I don't know if even when we're being nice we're all that interesting in the comments. Also, we do kind of treat these open comment sections like a private forum sometimes. That might be something we all should work on.
Also, no real beef on the editing; of course nobody likes being edited, it's not the fun part of the job. I don't think you step on my jokes maliciously or even on purpose; I think you occasionally (I exaggerated) step on my jokes because you did't get them. Which, in that case, like, were they that good to begin with? The only one I really regret or even actually remember is the Captain America cussing joke in a top ten list that was the culmination of three years worth of jokes, and you did ask me about it and I couldn't explain it so I guess that was just kind of for me, but the top tens are already kind of for me and also three years in the gestating but oh, well.
But actually speaking of openings, wow, I don't think you liked my The Bad Guys review. To be clear, that's fine, and I'm actually kind of cracking up a bit at it. I think the rambling beginning there was rambling, if I'm remembering right, but that was a visual thing, not a writing thing. Because I use movie posters, and one image has to be whatever width for Facebook or whatever, they take up a lot of space, and if I don't have enough prose to wrap around it, it sticks out awkwardly on the front page. I've definitely gotten better at disguising it (re-read some of my older reviews and you'll see it's much more obvious), but if you're editing something and the opening is like that, that's probably why (I think there was also a MLP review like that). Which is not to say don't try to make it better, but in future it's probably better to just ask me to rewrite the opening.
The point is, your editing is fine, I was sniping at you. I mean, my ego does like it when Sonious edits me ... because he just sends on through without a single change, but then I don't really learn much (also, he could at least proofread me, if he's reading, I mean, I write run on sentences frequently, always confuse my homophones, and, heck, just make typographical errors).