I'm not going to pile on Viro since I don't have the facts to do so and I don't necessarily trust the posts by those who were supposedly involved with him. Ex's often don't have the best things to say. That said, if you're going to involve somebody in BDSM play who's inexperienced when you are experienced, you need to be very careful and take things slowly because those new to it often have a very unrealistic view of how things work. Finances should absolutely be outside the power transfer that goes on. gifts are one thing, but both parties should be supporting themselves and interests.
I'm not going to pile on Viro since I don't have the facts to do so and I don't necessarily trust the posts by those who were supposedly involved with him. Ex's often don't have the best things to say. That said, if you're going to involve somebody in BDSM play who's inexperienced when you are experienced, you need to be very careful and take things slowly because those new to it often have a very unrealistic view of how things work. Finances should absolutely be outside the power transfer that goes on. gifts are one thing, but both parties should be supporting themselves and interests.