Viro, I just have one question for you. What is this "compassion" you/your podcast speaks of? I never listened to it, so I don't know if that's you or your former partner's word, but Equivamp's article mentions it several times and acknowledges that it's not quite the same thing as empathy. I'd like to know what the difference is. And yes, I've Googled it, but every page I find on the subject seems to say something different from the last and I just feel more confused. If you can't/won't answer, I'd deeply appreciate it if someone here could.
The reason I ask is because I also recently had someone in my life (thankfully not romantically or sexually) who used that word a lot and was also pretty abusive and manipulative towards me and others in his own right. I'm going to have to stand against him and expose him at some point and the sooner the better. But to break the spell these kinds of people put over others, it seems like a lot of that is breaking down the way they abuse and confuse the meanings of words to abuse and confuse the people around them.
Before I can feel confident that I can really take this guy on, I have to make sense of everything that happened and why, because for others who have been mistreated by him, they need to be made to see the misapplication of his words and ideas. Compassion is probably the crux of the issue. He's obsessed with the word. It was his wifi password for fuck's sake.
It's also something he and a few of his followers told me I "have to" have, that compassionate is something that I "have to be"... Well, perhaps they were right about that. But they made me HATE that word. I have a feeling I no longer will if I learn its true meaning, from someone who won't abuse it as a means of abusing others.
Is that who you wish to be, Viro? Then show me. Show us. And if your apology is sincere, let that be your first and hopefully not last step towards redemption.
Viro, I just have one question for you. What is this "compassion" you/your podcast speaks of? I never listened to it, so I don't know if that's you or your former partner's word, but Equivamp's article mentions it several times and acknowledges that it's not quite the same thing as empathy. I'd like to know what the difference is. And yes, I've Googled it, but every page I find on the subject seems to say something different from the last and I just feel more confused. If you can't/won't answer, I'd deeply appreciate it if someone here could.
The reason I ask is because I also recently had someone in my life (thankfully not romantically or sexually) who used that word a lot and was also pretty abusive and manipulative towards me and others in his own right. I'm going to have to stand against him and expose him at some point and the sooner the better. But to break the spell these kinds of people put over others, it seems like a lot of that is breaking down the way they abuse and confuse the meanings of words to abuse and confuse the people around them.
Before I can feel confident that I can really take this guy on, I have to make sense of everything that happened and why, because for others who have been mistreated by him, they need to be made to see the misapplication of his words and ideas. Compassion is probably the crux of the issue. He's obsessed with the word. It was his wifi password for fuck's sake.
It's also something he and a few of his followers told me I "have to" have, that compassionate is something that I "have to be"... Well, perhaps they were right about that. But they made me HATE that word. I have a feeling I no longer will if I learn its true meaning, from someone who won't abuse it as a means of abusing others.
Is that who you wish to be, Viro? Then show me. Show us. And if your apology is sincere, let that be your first and hopefully not last step towards redemption.