I guess maybe I just can't relate. I mean, I used to be pretty heavy in the therian community, and on a certain level, I still identify with certain aspects of it. My fursona began as an attempt to depict and live vicariously through a sort of spiritual self-image, as it is with a lot of therians who crossed over. I'm not a fursuiter, but I'd like to have something similar to a fursuit, just it'd be a bit different because it'd be more like a mask with an attached wig and maybe a kind of bodysuit with a tail. So yeah, I identify with these things. Yet an identity should be more than this. And it should be more than who you bone and how you bone them. But if you're trying to defend shit that's truly reprehensible, which the rule of thumb is anything that violates those who can't give well-informed consent, it being an intrinsic part of your identity doesn't grant you immunity from scorn and judgment.
The cold hard truth is none of us are above scrutiny, and that's why I'm incredibly selective about who I share most of my fantasies with even though they're completely outside the realm of things like cub, zoo, etc, just because I don't want to deal with other people trying to psychoanalyze me and argue me out of my ways. But my kinks would probably be part of my identity too, wouldn't they?
Perhaps the point I'm trying to get at is your identity as both a furry and a person has less to do with the particulars of fashion and fetish than the shit you bring on yourself out of twisted ideals and your need to be accepted by as many people possible. At some point you just have to ask yourself, is the cost of your war with the rest of the world worth it?
I guess maybe I just can't relate. I mean, I used to be pretty heavy in the therian community, and on a certain level, I still identify with certain aspects of it. My fursona began as an attempt to depict and live vicariously through a sort of spiritual self-image, as it is with a lot of therians who crossed over. I'm not a fursuiter, but I'd like to have something similar to a fursuit, just it'd be a bit different because it'd be more like a mask with an attached wig and maybe a kind of bodysuit with a tail. So yeah, I identify with these things. Yet an identity should be more than this. And it should be more than who you bone and how you bone them. But if you're trying to defend shit that's truly reprehensible, which the rule of thumb is anything that violates those who can't give well-informed consent, it being an intrinsic part of your identity doesn't grant you immunity from scorn and judgment.
The cold hard truth is none of us are above scrutiny, and that's why I'm incredibly selective about who I share most of my fantasies with even though they're completely outside the realm of things like cub, zoo, etc, just because I don't want to deal with other people trying to psychoanalyze me and argue me out of my ways. But my kinks would probably be part of my identity too, wouldn't they?
Perhaps the point I'm trying to get at is your identity as both a furry and a person has less to do with the particulars of fashion and fetish than the shit you bring on yourself out of twisted ideals and your need to be accepted by as many people possible. At some point you just have to ask yourself, is the cost of your war with the rest of the world worth it?