I think you're stuck in a loop. Since marriage is a mark of maturity, you see gays asking for marriage as children because they're not married.
I would agree not to put the star of David on one's self if it's unnecessary, however, being discreet has its disadvantages too. It makes it far easier to bully someone if they are alone as an individual. It makes it harder for the individuals to network with those sympathetic to their identity, just as much as it protects them from those who are less so.
There is a balance to these things, the thing is being worried about the judgement of individuals will always be a concern no matter what walk of life one comes from. Really, governments shouldn't be involved in the inter-relationship concerns. If it is a religious practice, then the government's involvement is the government acting on behalf of the religion. (That being said, while I do think gays should have the right to get married, they should not have the right to perform the ceremony everywhere, a particular church should always have the right to decline, the state however, should not.)
Marriage is a bit more then just "Oh we're a couple" legally, it comes with a whole crapload of benefits. In the US for example you have the ability hand off social security benefits to them should you die earlier, less taxes, etc.
I think you're stuck in a loop. Since marriage is a mark of maturity, you see gays asking for marriage as children because they're not married.
I would agree not to put the star of David on one's self if it's unnecessary, however, being discreet has its disadvantages too. It makes it far easier to bully someone if they are alone as an individual. It makes it harder for the individuals to network with those sympathetic to their identity, just as much as it protects them from those who are less so.
There is a balance to these things, the thing is being worried about the judgement of individuals will always be a concern no matter what walk of life one comes from. Really, governments shouldn't be involved in the inter-relationship concerns. If it is a religious practice, then the government's involvement is the government acting on behalf of the religion. (That being said, while I do think gays should have the right to get married, they should not have the right to perform the ceremony everywhere, a particular church should always have the right to decline, the state however, should not.)
Marriage is a bit more then just "Oh we're a couple" legally, it comes with a whole crapload of benefits. In the US for example you have the ability hand off social security benefits to them should you die earlier, less taxes, etc.